I think
domestic violence is acceptable.
Yeah. Wow. You didn’t expect that,
did you? Are you shocked? Do you think I have lost my mind? And most
importantly, do you think I am a bad person? You probably do. And you should.
Society gives us the answers to what is right and what is wrong, at least
hypothetically. Violence is bad, talking is good. But only because that is what
society thinks, is it what the individual people in the society think? There is
a big difference between the two. The first is something which gives us as a
collective the certainty and reassurance that there is something bigger out
there, binding us all together. It is something we have in common and therefore
is favorable to keep up or leave untouched. Furthermore, it makes us stronger
as a cultural entity and allows us to be proud of ourselves as a country. These
advantages are strong. They are so strong that they hide what is underneath.
What I mean by that is the duplicity that slumbers in so many of us, the latter
of my comparison. What we express publicly and what we truly believe from the
bottom of our hearts are too often two different things. You may consider this a vague claim because you
may ask yourselves: how is there a way for me to know this when the people
really just keep it to themselves? The truth is most people are not the best
liars. They “go with the flow” and tag along with society like little chicks
after their mother, because they are afraid to be abandoned. What they do not
notice is the fact that the truth can be detected from the way they act.
There
were several incidents, in which I was certain a person standing in front of me
had racist thoughts in their heads while they were talking to me. Even though
they were verbally expressing the exact opposite to that, the look in their
eyes could tell me how different their actual beliefs were. I am conscious of
how accusative this might sound, considering I can never be sure about a
person’s thoughts and should never judge someone without knowing them. However,
it is my opinion that racism is bigger than we know. At least in Germany it is
a big issue (I never experienced this in the United States.), which has become
more and more of a problem, considering the amount of power that the right-wing
party has gained in the last few years. So the two sides I discussed earlier
have actually shifted. Since there are constantly more people that express
their racist beliefs publicly, it is suddenly not so clear anymore what
“society thinks”. Society is split and therefore people are not afraid to be
abandoned when they state their opinion anymore. Of course this is exaggerated
and is not yet fully the case, but the way it looks now definitely heads into
that direction.
Shifts
like these happen frequently, whether it is in a negative way, like in this
case, or in a positive way, like when slavery and segregation were abolished in
the United States or the growing acceptance of homosexuality. This illustrates
that there might be a problem with “moral ideas”. There is no way to deny their
existence but what are they worth, when people think differently in their
individual consciences? It appears as if they are merely a façade that covers
up the true rawness of humankind.
(If it didn't become clear, I want the reader of this essay to know that I most certainly do not and will never think that domestic violence is acceptable. The use of this phrase was intended to demonstrate to the reader - in a rather provocative way - the set of "moral ideas" that is existent in all of us, as members of a society -consciously or subconsciously.
"The first is something which gives us as a collective the certainty and reassurance that there is something bigger out there, binding us all together."
ReplyDeleteI definitely agree to that thought! Sometimes I wonder how and why this society we live in functions so well despite the psychological condemnations of mankind uttered by journalists and social scientists. Really, if we would believe what is buzzing in the public media nowadays concerning the individual and its society, we should be slaughtering each other, green with envy, because of a pack of jellybabies. (Luckily,) we don't. This "something bigger out there" is hard to grasp. When exactly have we lost track of how our society functions? Did our ancestors know at some point? Did we create rules, traditions, and norms knowingly or are they specified in retrospect? As an individual that has a strong imagination I like to think that - as it has happened so often in the life on mankind - we created a society, established rules, etc. but "it" took over, and developed on its own without human interference (even though this seems contradictory).